| Ralph and Lilly Wells celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary in September with some eighty friends and relatives. Not bad considering the dark premonitions of Ralph's mother who saw no future in the match. They can now look back on a remarkable partnership that has helped to raise awareness of the problems of the disabled and involve them in the wider community. Although Ralph is 76 and Lily 85, they still host an annual open day in their garden when teas, cakes and plants are for sale in aid of Leatherhead Swans, a social and sports club for people with disabilities. | ||
Ralph was born in Hendon in 1926, the first of three children and born with cerebral palsy.
His father owned and ran a major Vauxhall dealership in London and Cardiff.
Lily was born in Bolton in 1917, her parents moving to London where they set up a fish and chip shop.
Lily was involved in the cooking despite also having been born with cerebral palsy.
Ralph then ran a newsagent near the Sutton Football Club from 1952. Tragedy struck when the manager unexpectedly died and in 1954 Ralph was knocked down by a motorcycle. Because of these and other problems, Ralph had to give up the news agency. Ralph's parents had parted and he and his mother set up a printing works manned by disabled people, which ran until he married. He later worked in Rentwood where he also did some printing. He was until last year a very successful street collector for the Winged Fellowship, a charity that provides disabled people with holidays. Ralph had first become involved in the charity field through the British Council for the Welfare of Spastics. His parents and others considered that the Council was not doing enough for its members. They formed a branch of the Spastic Fellowship in Croydon and then in Epsom. In order to recruit more members, Ralph wrote a letter in the local newspaper. Among the replies was one from Lily Smith and, as they say, the rest is history. After marriage, they set up home in Epsom and moved to their present home in Ashtead in 1962. For many years, they would walk to Leatherhead and Epsom, but now have to use wheel chairs. |
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Ralph has a playful sense of humour and an acute mind, masked to some extent by difficulty in being understood.
He and Lily have been active in getting things done for the disabled and getting their problems raised.
The Voluntary Association for Surrey Disabled started in New Malden and, with Lily a very active member, set up Victoria House in Leatherhead, sadly recently closed.
The Wells were founder members of the Leatherhead Swans Club, which has an active social programme.
Among other activities, Lily and Ralph used to bowl regularly on the Alexandra Park bowling green. Lily still bowls indoors at the Mole Valley Bowls Club.
Neither has let their disabilities get in the way of leading a full life. As relief from their charity work, they have been on several cruises and other holidays. When on Lanzarote, they climbed Fire Mountain, beyond the sign saying "not suitable for the disabled", and reached the summit. As Lily clicked the calliper on her disabled leg into place, she would undoubtedly have said "Now let's get into gear." Neither have they let the grass grow under their feet nor anybody else's. An invitation to tea is invariably followed by being asked to carry out some small, or not so small, task, which is willingly carried out for a couple who look on life as a glass half full rather than half empty. | |
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